Couples Counselling

Do you need to be at breaking point to begin couples counselling?

No. That's often the point at which couples do engage with it, when communication has broken down, when infidelity has occurred, when intimacy has faded, or when every attempt to resolve things alone has failed. But couples counselling can also help during significant life changes: buying a house, getting married, having children, facing health issues, or changing jobs. All of these can have a fundamental impact on a relationship, even a strong one.

Why relationships need support sometimes

At the beginning of a relationship, we're often swept up in the romance of it all, the flowers, the dinners, the grand gestures, hoping they'll deepen into something that enhances our lives and brings us joy. The relationship becomes a unique blend of two individuals, an energy that exists between them and nowhere else.

We're social beings. We're wired to connect with others for our safety and wellbeing, and finding someone to share our life with is often one of the most important parts of that. So, when difficulties get in the way of a healthy relationship, asking for help isn't a failure, it's an option, and often a wise one.

What happens in couples counselling

In couples counselling, the relationship itself is at the centre of the work. There's space for each person's perspective, experience and feelings to be seen and heard, allowing room to understand one another and find new ways to communicate.

This is what sets it apart from individual therapy: the focus isn't on one person, but on building the strongest, deepest relationship possible, one where both partners feel supported and cared for, and where each person can be truly and openly themselves, without fear of judgement or criticism from the person they share their life with.

We are each shaped by our own experiences. What we expect from a relationship is built on the examples set by the people around us growing up, and these patterns of behaviour and styles of communication can have a lasting effect on how we show up in our relationships as adults.

How long does couples counselling take?

The length of the work varies from couple to couple. I ask that we commit to an initial **6 sessions** together. This gives us space to build a strong therapeutic relationship and to properly understand what's brought you to couples counselling.

Get in touch

If you'd like to talk about whether couples counselling is right for you, get in touch for an initial conversation